What do you remember learning about “boundaries” from your family growing up? Probably more than you realize. Many of us learn early in life not to grab toys out of another child’s hand, or to knock before entering a room with the door closed. The specific lessons themselves, while important, are not the whole story. How we learn about boundaries is … Read More
My partner had an affair……
I talk to people about relationships for a living. At least for the last 15 years I have. So I decided to write a little bit about the greatest pain a relationship can face: an Affair. An affair feels like a broken heart, a slap in the face, a rug pulled from underneath you, the biggest uncertainty you’ve ever felt; … Read More
Marriage and Individual Teletherapy in MD and PA – Mara Katz, MSW, LCSW-C
Last 6 months many of us have been stuck together 24hours a day, having to assume multiple new roles (working from home while caring for children and preparing all meals and now providing education for our children). Life is still completely upside down, routines are hard to form, privacy and time alone is compromised, and our list of priorities is … Read More
Can I accept difficult feelings in a relationship?
On Radical Acceptance – What is it? And why does it matter in relationships? “Unacceptable.” How many times do you think or hear yourself saying that something is “unacceptable?” We all have expectations about our own and others’ behaviors and we all find ourselves in situations where we feel that these expectations have been unmet. Sometimes we end up in … Read More
Marriage Teletherapy in Maryland
Marriage Teletherapy in Maryland during Covid-19 In the past month many of us have been stuck together 24hours a day, having to assume multiple new roles (working from home while caring for children and preparing all meals). While many families are forced to be apart to protect their family member’s health. Life is completely upside down, routines are hard to … Read More
Why can’t I forgive the affair?
By Mara Katz LCSW-C Trauma is characterized by events that overwhelm “normal” or relied upon coping strategies and is worsened by a sense of isolation. No one is prepared to learn that their intimate partner has been unfaithful and, in spite of fantasies about how we would respond in such a situation, the reality is much more complicated. Infidelity tends … Read More
My Spouse is Looking up Old Flames. Is my Marriage in Trouble?
Marriage and Facebook / Happier Marriage in Towson Maryland As a marriage and couples therapist, I’ve had countless clients tell me they have “caught” their spouse looking up an old flame, and they want to know if their marriage is in trouble. The short answer is yes—but probably not for the reasons you’re thinking. In the age of social media, … Read More
Trying not to fall out of Love?| Couples Counseling in Hunt Valley, MD
Trying not to fall out of Love? Four Ways to Reconnect with Your Partner | Couples Counseling in Hunt Valley, MD by Darina Alban MSW, LCSW-C Marriage Counselor in Lutherville, MD After a rough day at the office and a hellish commute, you can’t wait to get home to a relaxing evening with your family. But when you … Read More
What’s Happening to me? After an Affair. How Betrayals can cause Trauma | Infidelity Counseling, Lutherville, MD
Infidelity Counseling Lutherville, MD & Couples Therapy Works by Darina Alban LCSW-C “Its been many weeks since discovery day”, in some ways it feels like it just happened. As I help couples with Infidelity Counseling in Lutherville, MD, I often hear stories like these: I cried all the tears I could cry, felt devastated, out of control, overwhelmed and broken at … Read More
I came clean about my affair | Couples Counseling Lutherville MD
I came clean about my affair, but my partner keeps pressing me for details… part of the series for Couples Counseling Lutherville MD You had an affair, and now your spouse knows about it. Whether you got “caught” or confessed on your own, your spouse is hurt and upset, and won’t stop asking you uncomfortable questions about your affair. No matter … Read More