Why Gottman Method Couple Therapy will help you relationship
Gottman Method Couples Therapy combines the knowledge and wisdom of more than three decades of Gottman relationship research and clinical practice. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have shown how couples can accomplish making relationship last, become better friends, achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy and create ways to support one another in the future.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy is structured, goal oriented, scientifically-based therapy. Interventions are based upon empirical data from Dr. Gottman’s three decades of research with more than 3,000 couples.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy was developed out of this research to help couples:
- Increase respect, affection and closeness
- Break through and resolve conflict when they feel stuck
- Generate greater understanding between partners
- Keep conflict discussion calm
Gottman Theory for Making Relationship Work
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- Build Love Maps: How well do you know your partners inner psychological world, his or her history, worries, stresses, joys and hopes?
- Share Fondness and Admiration: The antidote for contempt, this level focuses on the amount of affection and respect within a relationship. (To strengthen fondness and admiration, express appreciation and respect).
- Turn Towards: State your needs, be aware of bids for connection and respond (turn towards)them.
- The Positive Perspective: The presence of a positive approach to problem solving and the success of repair attempts.
- Manage Conflict: We say “manage “conflict rather than “resolve” conflict, because relationship conflict is natural and has functional positive aspects, Understand that there is a critical difference in handling perpetual and solvable problems.
- Make Life Dreams Come True: Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly about his or her hopes, values, convictions and aspirations.
- Create Shared Meaning: Understand important visions, narratives, myths and metaphors about your relationship.
- Trust: This is the state that occurs when a person knows that his or her partner acts and thinks to maximize that persons best interests and benefits, not just the partners own interests and benefits. In other words “My partner has my back and is there for me”.
- Commitment: This means believing (and acting on the belief) that your relationship with this person is completely your lifelong journey, for better or for worse (meaning that if it gets worse you will both work to improve it). It implies cherishing your partner’s positive qualities and nurturing gratitude by comparing your partner favorably with real or imagined others rather than trashing your partner by magnifying negative qualities, and nurturing resentment by comparing unfavorably with real or imagined people.